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Life after a divorce or separation requires many adjustments. One big one? Learning to live alone again. After my separationI texted my older cousin for words of advice. While discussing my pending move to a new place, we talked about how to readjust to living alone, and dealing with the loneliness that can strike.
He was almost right. Living alone after an extended period of cohabitation is an exciting but scary life adjustment. A man will learn a lot about himself in just a short period of time. For some newly separated or divorced menthe transition will be an easy one; for others, it might take months before a new place actually feels like home. It took me some time to adjust, but I eventually got there.
Living alone after a divorce will involve long bouts of silence. Even with the TV on or music blasting, the absence of other voices in the house will find a way to drown out the rest of the noise. Embrace the quiet. Research has proven that silence is incredibly vital to the brain and mental health.
Just an hour of silence replenishes our cognitive resources, relieves stress, helps us work through internal issues, and might even regenerate brain cells. These long lulls between conversations make the time around people, especially your kids, even more enjoyable. Being on your own again does involve freedom, but that freedom often le to neglecting everything from your house to your responsibilities, and even your body. A stricter routine le to more freedom. McRaven shared the 10 most ificant things he learned while training that would help the graduates as they moved on to the next chapter in life.
Making your bed is an essential first step in your new daily routine. Making your bed starts the day with an accomplishment. A farmhouse table handmade from reclaimed wood was one of my big-ticket purchases before moving into the new place where I would start my life after my divorce. You end up spending a substantial amount of time and money on fantasy. Focus first on necessities like having all the right tools and utensils around the house. Get a read on how living alone will actually go and adjust accordingly.
For the first few months, the cabinets and fridge were as empty as my checking. Only on the Fridays before the kids spent the weekend would I food shop and bring rations into the house. After getting sick of every takeout place within five miles, I decided to put my hours of binge-watching cooking shows and food documentaries to good use. I cracked open the cookbooks of my favorite chefs, collected favorite recipes from my mom, and taught myself to be a not-too-awful amateur sous chef. I like saying no. Saying no feels really good. Meet up more with friends and family, volunteer, get a side job, exercise more, and put yourself in situations that require talking to other people.
Some of my closest friends have yet to set foot in my apartment. You need to explicitly ask people to stop by and check out the new digs. Make your home the default living room for watching wrestling PPVs or for monthly poker nights or for meeting up before jaunts with the running club.
Besides cooking, find other acts of self-improvement to fill time. Try to stay clear of hobbies that require a lot of money, time, and space.
It will take time to get accustomed to the added responsibilities, the silence, and the sudden absence of your family. But, just like everything in life, the occasional solitude will get easier over time.
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How to Deal With Loneliness After Divorce or Separation